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  1. But is this an accurate description? If you donate to X Charity in my name, do I really get follow-up requests from X Charity? I would think they would just go to you in that scenario.

    I’m not wild about the idea of someone donating to a charity of their choice in my name (although it might be different if they knew it was a charity I specifically support). But I’m even less enthusiastic about their donating to a charity in their own name, in lieu of a gift to me.

  2. Once I had enough disposable income, I decided to pick one charity to sponsor. Instead of giving $25 to each of lots of charities, I give $200/month to one, on condition that they never request more, or give my name/address to anyone. The woman I talked to said, ‘Oh, no, we never give out the names of our major donors’.

    And yes, if the donation is in your name, you’ll get more requests. They have to send you a receipt, you know, and charities collect names/addresses constantly.

  3. Forgot to say, I think donating instead of gifting is wonderful – how many of us actually need more stuff?

  4. Not sure why this is a CIDU. I started to explain it then realized Frazz already did.

    But since it is labeled as such… He is donating to charity instead of giving people more stuff. Instead of then burdening friends and family with requests for more money, he is seeing to it they get nothing. His friends and family get satisfaction knowing money spent on probably relatively useless stuff for them is going to a good cause without having to deal with the consequences of those donations.

  5. Let me get this straight: He donates (presumably to the Society of Pedantic Bicyclists) under his own name and somehow that counts as a gift for somebody else (who won’t even be notified)?

  6. Well, I have to come down on the other side of the argument. I have friends in UK and Canada; the cost of sending gifts has become appalling. However, we ASK each other which rescue group each of us would like supported by a donation; in fact, this thread reminded me I hadn’t yet donated to my friend in UK’s fave charity, Hedgehog Rescue (yes, there really is such a thing).

    As we all work in Dog Rescue, it’s better to support our Rescue groups than buy more stuff and give the postal services [LOTS] more money.

    However, this is done with mutual agreement; I can see how anything else could raise one’s ire.

  7. “Let me get this straight: He donates (presumably to the Society of Pedantic Bicyclists) under his own name and somehow that counts as a gift for somebody else (who won’t even be notified)?”

    For be it from me to defend Frazz but…. sheesh… it’s a joke.

  8. If a friend’s parent dies of heart disease, I’ll probably donate to the AHA in my friend’s name: as a mark of condolence, not in lieu of another gift I was already planning to give him.

    But making a donation to a charity of MY choosing, and then saying “This is your gift”? Pretty arrogant, really.

    And not notifying the “giftee”? Kind of ridiculous.

    Hence the “CIDU” tag: My default position, foolishly enough, is that we’re looking at a scenario that makes sense.

  9. “Sheesh”, Woozy? You mean it’s wrong to think a joke has to be at least somewhat anchored in reality?

  10. “it’s better to support our Rescue groups than buy more stuff and give the postal services [LOTS] more money.”

    I’m all in favor of supporting charities (and I do), but I’m also all in favor of supporting the postal service, which is *very* important to me and which (in the U.S. at least) really *needs* money (thanks to politicians trying to starve it to death).

    Just gave ’em $311 last week (mailing books to a friend in Australia).

  11. I just wanted to let you all know that I have made a donation in your name to The Human Fund. You are welcome.

  12. Well, a quirky joke *shouldn’t* be anchored in reality because the floating off point is the joke. “Wait, in your *own* name? How is that a gift?” “This way they won’t be placed on their mailing list”. Makes perfect sense as a joke. “What are you looking for here if you lost them in your bedroom” “Because the light is better here”. Same idea.

    My take. Donating the a charitry of the giftee’s choice *when* that is what the giftee suggested and the gifter would be happy with the same is okay, but otherwise this is passive aggressive. “I didn’t get you a gift but I choose to be a do gooder but I’m letting you take the priaise even though you did nothing and I’m not getting you anything. You’re okay with that, aren’t you? Surely you aren’t so selfish and shallow you’d rather I spent money on *you* rather than the poor starving charity of *your* choice (which I’m assuming you didn’t give to anyway). Sheesh, you’re so shallow”

  13. A number of years ago, I found an organization that sells ”Goodcards” — a donation gift card where the recipient chooses the donee from an extensive and diverse list of charities. So, for example, I buy a $100 Goodcard for my sister, and she gets to choose which charity gets the $100 donation. (My cost is the face value plus a $5 service fee.)

    My family seems to appreciate these. It is fun to see the choices they make, few of which I would ever think of myself.

    https://www.networkforgood.org/goodcard/buy.aspx

  14. At my wife’s funeral I decided I didn’t need a roomful of flowers. So I requested donations in her name to one of her favorite charities, a group that provides water wells to desperately poor villages in sub-Saharan Africa. We financed four wells in her memory, and I didn’t have to deal with a bunch of flowers. But I had specifically requested people to do this, which is not at all the same as someone deciding to donate to some charity in my name instead of giving gifts.

  15. Um, guys? Where does it say he doesn’t ask them, and ask them which charity they prefer? As for notifying them, the comic doesn’t address that, either.

  16. woozy, I’d go along with your reasoning if in the final panel Caulfield was giving him a look that said “Christ, what…” Well, you know.

  17. ‘I follow the principle of “If it’s not in the panels, it didn’t happen.”’

    To some extent, so do I. But when when something has to be inferred just in order for the comic to make sense or to have a joke, I’m willing to extrapolate. In this case I think that extrapolation is useful only to make Frazz look like less of a jerk, so I don’t think it’s worthwhile.

  18. I think a bunch of you are looking gift horses in the teeth. If someone wants to give you a gift of a ceramic lapdog, you smile and say “thank you” regardless of what you think of ceramic lapdogs. The same is true no matter what the gift is; The fact that you asked for X doesn’t create an obligation to buy X for you. Sometimes gift givers guess exactly what you wanted, and sometimes they honor your specific request and get you exactly what you wanted. Sometimes, they guess wrong, or disregard your expressed desires. And sometimes they have something else going on in their lives and forget to get you a gift of any kind. Your mileage may vary.

    If I’m friends with Frazz, we probably have similar enough interests that we support many of the same causes. If he gives money to an organization who’s chosen mission doesn’t clash with mine, I’m happy that they got the money, regardless of whether the organization knows I had anything to do with the gift that came their way. To do anything else is to be looking for an opportunity to take offense. I don’t do that.

  19. A couple of decades ago a client, a noted physician, died. I sent a whopping $5 donation (hey, he was no longer going to be a client) in his memory to the hospital whose staff he was on. About 2 years ago I finally stopped receiving mail from them asking for additional donations. Even if they get free printing, envelope stuffing, etc. and use discounted stamps for bulk and/or non-profits – what they lost in mailing me solicitations over those decades means that I should not have donated to them and they would have saved money.

  20. Similarly, we donated $25 to a major children’s charity about 5 years ago for a couple of years. The sheer amount of additional requests from them annually made us decide to no longer send the money as almost all of it was being consumed by the cost to them of the additional requests, even if the “gifts” and the other costs – as in prior post – were covered or reduced in some way. We stopped sending the contributions as we figured that at best they were just breaking even or a little more than same.

    We actually feel bad about discontinuing this contribution and I was thinking of doing as Chak did – basically saying here’s the money, don’t send us anything and you will get another one next year. Since it worked for Chak – I will try it this year.

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